Sex is a hard subject, no pun intended, but I must put in my two cents. I learned things that I must share with you, for the better good. I found out that sexual intercourse in heterosexual couples is not the primary source of pleasure for the female. The fact of the matter is that females are much more likely to achieve orgasm through oral sex than through intercourse. Sue Johanson has done a great job of mentioning realities of our sex life that every man, and woman, should know about. One such reality is that a majority men ejaculate within the first two minutes of intercourse, mainly because of the masturbation habits they got during childhood. As a child, you used to hide in the locker and pleasure yourself as quickly as possible, to minimize the chance of an unwanted encounter with, say, Mum. And that’s given you quick ejaculation. And as it turns out, the female is exactly the opposite, needing much caress and attention to even get sexually aroused. Sadly, this creates a conflict of interest. She needs a lot of time, but he finishes fast.
As pointed out by a sex doctor referenced by Sue, Ian Kerner, in his book, She Comes First, when it comes to pleasuring women and conversing in the language of love, cunnilingus should be every man’s native tongue. He quotes bestselling sex author, Lou Paget, who has written, “Ask most women, and if they’re being honest, they will admit that what makes them hottest and come hardest is when a man can use his tongue well.” He then points out how most men have trouble with intercourse and should employ oral sex techniques as core activity in their sex lives.
You can go ahead and read the book, or check out the web. A collection of meaningful links will grow here, the most notable so far being the Cunnilingus Guide.
Believe it or not, I’ve had Google searches asking that question. And since the answer is at hand, or at mouth, depending on your level of perversity, we decided to write it out loud—cunnilingus is the oral stimulation of a woman’s genitalia.
Posted in 1994 on Usenet group alt.sex.wizards, this story written by a horny lady is a very good guide to pleasuring a woman.